Welcome to lesson 6 of the Bee Friend course.
In our previous lesssons
we talked about the three reasons
why learning and paying attention to body language is so important.
In today’s lesson I’m gonna show you the three body language signs
you need to use in all of your future interactions.
These three so-called friend signals are the three most powerful signs.
If used correctly,
will make others like you a lot more upon meeting you
and also make you seem like a much more approachable
and trustworthy person.
So let’s get started.
we are gonna start off the one sign out of these three
that you probably already know,
which is the smile.
Smiling is the most powerful friend signal
and this is for a very good reason.
See when we smile our brain actually releases endorphins
which are chemicals that make us feel good
and what’s interesting is that people who see your smile
will also release endorphins in their brains.
So when you’re genuinely smiling during a conversation,
both you and whoever you are interacting with will feel good.
But we have to pay close attention to the word genuine.
See the truth of the matter is there are many moments in our lives
where we force ourselves to smile.
During awkward conversations working retail with mean customers
and dealing with terrible bosses,
we often put on a fake smile
to pretend that everything is a okay.
But the problem is It’s pretty easy to tell the difference
between a fake smile and a genuine one.
If you smile incorrectly, the fake way,
people will think you are faking your emotions
and they will have a hard time trusting you.
It’s gonna have the opposite effect of what you want.
So it’s very important that you learn
how to create a genuine smile on command correctly.
A genuine smile looks something like this.
When someone is truly happy and they smile,
bags will appear under their eyes.
Their cheeks will raise very high
and slight wrinkles called crow’s feet will appear
on the edge of their eyes.
The best way to practice this is
by paying attention to the next time
you’re actually having a good time,
when you’re actually smiling or laughing because you feel great.
Pay attention to how your face feels and
then practice it on your own at home in front of a mirror.
It takes some practice
but you’ll eventually be able to pull it off.
And the crazy thing is
when you learn how to create a genuine smile on command,
you will actually feel better in your interactions with others,
which makes you seem like an even more fun person to be around.
The second friend signal is what’s called
the eyebrow flash.
This is when you raise and drop your eyebrows very very quickly.
In fact you can practice this right now
by raising and lowering your eyebrows as fast as you can
just like this.
If you sit down and watch people in a crowded area,
you’ll notice that almost all close friends
who are meeting up will use it upon seeing each other.
It’s kind of a way of saying hello.
So when you use it with a complete stranger
or an acquaintance that you barely know.
It’s gonna make you appear a lot friendlier
because it’s a body language sign
that we’re accustomed to seeing our friends use.
So how do we use the eyebrow flash?
Well, it’s best used from a distance
at least a couple of feet away.
Let’s say you see someone across the room
that you’d like to talk to.
By using the eyebrow flash combined with a bit of eye contact
and a genuine smile,
you’d be telling them hey I’m a friendly person
and I like to talk to you.
Now it’s very important to note that
you have to do this correctly.
If you do the eyebrow flash incorrectly,
you’re gonna come off as a complete creep.
The most common mistake that people make when using the flash
is that they hold their eyebrows up for too long
just like this.
Another common mistake is that they don’t smile.
If you use the eyebrow flash and just stare at someone without smiling,
you’re gonna come off as a potential threat.
So try not to do that.
Alright, so let’s move on to the final friend signal,
which is the head tilt.
Now the head tilt is a powerful friend signal
because of what it implies.
See the arteries on the side of our neck
are some of the most important arteries in our body.
So when we humans and also other mammals feel threatened,
we tend to tuck our neck in
in order to protect these sensitive areas.
When you actively tilt your head to the side,
you’re actually exposing one of the most vulnerable parts of your body
to the world which signals to whoever you’re interacting with that
you feel extremely comfortable relaxed and at ease.
And remember like we mentioned before when you do something like smile
and you feel a certain way
whoever you’re interacting with
will also feel a little bit of that too.
So, your feeling of ease and comfort will transfer over
to whoever you’re interacting with.
People are going to think,
“Wow! This person is so relaxed around me!
That makes me feel better even though I just met him.”
Now how exactly do we do the head tilt?
Well, it’s actually quite simple.
You want to make sure that you’re tilting your head
just a little bit, not so much,
anywhere from 10 to 20 degrees.
If you tilt your head so much gonna look kind of weird.
You want to use the head tilt when you’re close to someone
like when you’re sitting down at a table or at the bar.
It is especially powerful when someone else is talking and you’re listening to them
as it will look like you are extremely focused
on whatever it is that they’re saying
and people love a good listener.
Now if you combine all three of these powerful friend signals properly
then it should look something like this.
And just to give you an idea of how powerful this is.
Let’s compare it to the same person doing none of these things.
Can you see the difference?
Which one would you want to talk to more?
These three friends signals are extremely important
when it comes off to giving a good first impression.
So make sure you practice using them
in all of your future interactions.
If you do I guarantee that
you will see an improvement in how people receive you.
In our next lesson we’re gonna talk
about body language signs you want to avoid.
You just learned about what signals will make you become more likeable
but there are also signals out there that you need to avoid like the plague.
Signals that will make you unlikable.
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Besides that guys, stay tuned.